BDSM and SM are concepts that are common with sex. Not everyone knows what the meaning is or what it is. Here we explain what the definition is, what the difference is and how it works in the field of eroticism.

Abbreviation meaning BDSM and SM

BDSM is a collective term for a form of sexuality. The abbreviation literally stands for:
- Bondage
- Discipline or Dominance
- Submission or Sadism
- Masochism

Because BDSM is a combination name of different abbreviations, we will also explain this. For example, within BDSM there are the abbreviations BD which stands for 'Bondage & Discipline', DS which stands for 'Dominance & Submission' and SM which stands for 'Sadism & Masochism'.

As you can see SM stands for Sadism & Masochism and is part of BDSM.

What is BDSM?

BDSM is an umbrella term for countless different behaviors, feelings, desires, thoughts, identities and relationships. As a result, different things may seem to have nothing in common or have no common ground while they fall under the same heading of BDSM.

Thanks to the movie "Fifty shades of Gray", this kinky lifestyle has become very popular and no longer a taboo. For example, BDSM is increasingly accepted and new doors have been opened for many.

BDSM Bondage (B)

Bondage reduces freedom of movement. For example, your partner is tied with ropes, handcuffs or special clothing. Freedom is thus limited.

It often gives a feeling of dominance and submission. The one who dominates is called the 'stupid' and the one who is submissive is called the 'sub'. This power game is very exciting for both.

Once freedom is limited, various sexual acts can be performed from stroking to whipping and more. The imagination can go loose, which creates an exciting atmosphere and sensation.

BDSM Discipline (D)

Discipline is mainly about obedience. Submission and dominance play an important role in this. A good example of this is the role of master and slave.

The slave must carry out assignments from the master. Think of erotic acts, but also humiliation such as licking feet. In case of disobedience, there is a certain punishment and vice versa a reward.

The assignments or sexual acts can of course be invented yourself. Discipline is involved in almost every BDSM game.

BDSM Sadism (S)

Sadism within BDSM is one of the extreme variants when it comes to physical and psychological pain. The person who administers it and derives erotic pleasure from it is called a sadist. This can be either a woman or a man.

Various actions are performed to cause pain in most cases by the 'stupid'. Sadism plays a role in many BDSM games.

Think for example of games with a whip, but also more extreme. It is mainly about having power.

BDSM Masochism (M)

Masochism is the opposite of sadism. The pleasure is mainly about receiving pain both physically and psychologically. The person who enjoys this erotic pleasure is called a masochist.

A masochist has a submissive role where there are many opportunities to enjoy masochism. Think of masochistic games with sex toys such as nipple clamps, chastity belts, whips and much more. It can be very extreme, but also harmless like name calling. For example, there are different levels of masochism.

BDSM is more than eroticism and broader than sex. For some, BDSM is sex and for others it is not at all. This also has to do with the link to sexuality. For example, some believe that sadomasochism is not sex, because sexuality does not occur here and it revolves around giving and receiving orders. For example, the term BDSM can differ per person.

Kinkies, sm'ers, bdsm'ers, sadomasochists or whatever you want to call it experience BDSM as a great part of their lives.

SM is quite an intimate subject. You explore each other's body and mind, and you explore the boundaries together and you are emotionally vulnerable. As a result, you often experience great intimacy with your partner.

Fetish

Within BDSM the term "fetish" or "fetish" is common. It is a sexual orientation where you are very aroused by a certain object or body part. There are therefore countless types of fetishes.

Some shapes with, for example, articles of clothing or objects are leather, latex, rubber, feet and underwear. Without sexual arousal, there is no fetish.

One fetish is also easier to discuss and accepted than the other. For some people, a sexual fetish is a way to relax.

Difference BDSM and SM

SM is part of BDSM and deals with the last piece Sadism & Masochism (SM). BDSM is a general term and the different forms often overlap.

In most cases it concerns "more extreme forms" of sex experience. Within SM you also have different parts and shapes.

Soft and hardcore sex game

Whether BDSM is a softer version of SM really depends on which variant is used and in the core it all blends into each other. This way you can make it as soft and hard as you want. SM often suggests that it is only about pain, but that is not entirely correct.

Relationships and BDSM

BDSM is a separate exciting type of relationship that you enter into with each other. Often one of the partners has more power than the other and this is also reflected in the person who is dominant (stupid) and submissive (sub). The same also occurs in daily relationships.

It also provides a lot of clarity in the relationship. The best thing is when both partners have a love affair with each other, but this is not always the case. In other cases, it's all about the tension and sex, and love doesn't matter.

SM relationships often take place in secret. Not everyone is interested in this and that is why these types of relationships often take place outside the door and therefore they cheat.

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